The ugly and the not so beautiful

The ugly and the not so beautiful

One would think that the recent pandemic would bring out the best in people; but, as it turns out, apparently not; in India, it seems to be bringing out the beast in a lot of them. Some of the incidents make you wonder where humanity has disappeared.

Sadly though, it’s not like this is something that started during the years of the pandemic, it has been there from as far as one can remember. Ironically, the crimes against women are among the highest in the same country where they are worshipped. What is the point folding your hands in front of a woman to ask for all that you desire and then using those same hands to abuse and exploit the one who you spend your life with!

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Another quarter down!

Another quarter down!

Travelling for work is something new that I have started recently, and as much as I like to travel, work trips are nothing like taking a holiday…more so, when you are stuck with colleagues you are not fond of! This is the time, when I try to bury myself in work so that the days go faster. So, the result is that it feels like being a Hamster on a running wheel. The routine is usually eat-work-sleep; repeat!

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The spark in the dark

The spark in the dark

What is Love? I hadn’t really thought about it in a long time. Then, just the other day, as I was driving home from work I was listening to a talk show on the radio where the discussion was around emotions and people can feel / not feel them. It was quite an interesting one. Hearing this discussion kind of sent me down memory lane to think about my own story..

My earliest introduction to love was probably when I was around 11 – 12 years, thanks to the few romantic comedies I was allowed to watch; or perhaps even younger because of Fairy Tales (where all stories have a happy ending) Oh! They filled my head with a lot of fanciful ideas about love.. I guess, I was more in love with the idea of falling in love than realising the implications it came with.

As I grew up, multiple heart breaks later, somewhere my faith and ideas started wavering before they flickered off fully; to the extent I wasn’t even sure I felt anything anymore. Then, things changed again after I met my husband!

In the last four years I found out it is possible for a person with a whole heart to heal a person with a cracked heart. The process may be slightly slow, but happen, it does. To me, love has taken a new meaning now. I have begun to believe that it is not a single emotion, but, a tangled web of many emotions. Or rather, if I may put it like that, it stirs up a lot of emotions in you.

It brings:

Joy – when you are together

Sadness – the time you spend apart on travel

Pure joy – meeting after ages

Anger – sometimes driving the other person mad is also a part of the package (a.k.a. quirks / other mechanisms)

Wonder – that you are capable of being unconditionally loved by somebody, while not realising that you deserve it

It is liberating, being with him, for I can be myself; do the silly things that I want to do, tell him something I did even though that may not have been the brightest / smartest thing I have done… nothing beats looking into those deep brown eyes. I could go on doing it for hours together! The touch of his hands still give me goose bumps.

As much as we are used to it, staying apart is painful every single time. It feels like the better part of you is missing. It’s like a hollow shadow is following you around. When we do end up getting back home together, it’s quite the party 😉

As is typical of him, when he’s at home, I am getting a lot of love in the form of gentle intermittent prodding to see if I am done or just some itty bitty information on what happened during the day. I love it, the sound of his voice, the way he smells, even his imperfections feel perfect.

So, in my opinion, I feel love is a vast ocean of emotions and expressions that cannot be defined. It can only be felt! Now that I am used to it, I would never trade it for anything else; for this is what reminds me that I have a heart, one that is beating. Sometimes, the only trigger you need is a person to tell or show you you can be loved, and I cannot think of any emotion right now that could be stronger than this one!

Till next time, cheers!

Happy New Year!!

Happy New Year!!

Well, the new year is here. It seems to have brought with it a lot of hope. At least, I think so. I do not know why, but I can feel it.

I haven’t felt this excited about the start of a New Year in recent times. I think there is a lot that’s meant to happen.  To be honest, I think I deserve a Treat this year; after how last year turned out. 

I hope it turns out to be a good one for my family as well. After all, that’s all that you need right.. peace within your home.

So, here’s hoping this new year brings calm, peace and tranquillity to all of us..  Happy New Year fellow bloggers. Here’s to a year filled with a whole lot of blogging, reading and simply cherishing life. 

Cheers!

Time to get your tongue rolling!

Time to get your tongue rolling!

Being a semi tom-boy, I have always been fascinated by gadgets and technology. Now, technology has gotten humanity to heights like never before. This is evident in the field of education and learning. I am not referring to academia – I mean the other kind of learning outside school – the unconventional methods that have come to be these days.

If not for technology and social media, my latest hobby wouldn’t have materialised. I have been in Bangalore for about three years now. Though I can pretty much understand Kannada (the local regional language), speaking is slightly problematic. The bigger words are not the issue. The smaller intricacies such as usage of fillers, pronouns, gender-neutral words and constructing conversational sentences here and there still has a long way to go. I was wondering how best to get over that hurdle…That is when this unique initiative caught my eye.

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Life’s intricacies

Life’s intricacies

Today has been one of those days – where you know a new chapter is opening up in your life and there’s nothing you can do about it except accept it and go along with the flow. It may not be anything big; but still you need time to get used to it. 

Relationships can be so fragile – between siblings; couples; or even friends for that matter. Nothing tests it more than staying together. This can make or break families; it brings out the best in some people while the worst in others.

 Living in a joint family can either be a pleasant dream or an absolute nightmare depending on how the rest of the members are…and sometimes, even when things are going good, you need to separate and live apart to save the future of relationships; for things get complicated when siblings get married and have families of their own.

 One day or another the question of breaking up and living in individual houses will come up; the only question is whether it will happen amicably or after a lot of unpleasantness. It is always better to part ways amicably; for then the relations are saved – and at the end of the day, you have two houses to hang out at right! But, of course, the time when the other family has to move out can be slightly heart breaking. After all, by staying together, so much would’ve been shared with each other.

 So, with all these thoughts going on in my head, I was feeling slightly under the weather. That is when I came across this lovely forward (pic below)

 

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It is neither great nor uncommon. Those are just simple word. And yet, something about it calmed me and I felt it made a lot of sense. I guess, at that point I just needed to be reminded of it. After all, nothing in life is static right. The only thing constant is change. We need to adapt ourselves to be that way as well. That way, we’ll be at peace with ourselves and those around us.

 

 

Annual Review time

Annual Review time

It has been close to a year now since I started blogging. Looking back, it has been a year of ups and downs. Initially,my fear was never that I would run out of things to write; it was more about my dedication to the blog. This is owing to the fact that at times, when things get tough, I do have a tendency to drop it then and there.

However, looking back, my fears were unfounded. I seem to have done quite well; though I agree that there’s still a long way to go. I need to start writing much more. Of course, things were pretty crazy all around; but then there is always going to be something happening ..I can’t let that stop me from having my self-time, right!

So here’s to a new beginning of blogging a lot more and being active in the WordPress community! Cheers fellow bloggers!

 

 

 

 

Home

Home

Home. What is home? What is being at home? One word with so much meaning. For me, home is where my heart is. That place where I can be myself. Let go of all pretenses. It is also being with the people I am most comfortable with. My husband; my closest family; my small circle of friends.

Till date, I have lived in three cities. The city I grew up in, the one where I worked and the one I moved to post-marriage. Each of these cities have shaped a part of me; which has made me who I am today.

The city I grew up in – ‘Kochi’ (in Kerala, India) will always be one of my most favourite place. Going back there is a feeling that can neither be expressed nor spoken. It has to be felt. That feeling is what home means to me. During the drive from the

Kochi
Glimpses of Kochi {Source: Google Images}

airport to my parent’s house, I keep a look out to see what has changed – There is pride when something has improved and there is sadness when something old is no more. Even today, during my visits, I make a point to visit my old haunts – because it makes me feel whole and rejuvenated. A coastal city, it is practically like an island – if not for the fact that almost at every corner there is a bridge connecting it to the rest of the city. It is a quaint place (well not so quiet and quaint anymore); but the beach and the waterfront place is what makes me fall in love every single time. That was where I grew up. That was where I spent the first twenty – four years of my life. So quite a lot has happened there!

 

Chennai
Some views of Chennai {Source: Google Images}

After being at home for so long, I was itching to experience living on my own. And that is how I landed in Chennai (literally – I did catch a flight there after all) in the state of Tamil Nadu, when I got my first job post – qualification. Now, for a girl who’s had a slightly over-protective life, this was a welcoming experience. I do admit it was overwhelming initially; but a small bunch of good friends and fun room mates soon made me feel at home. Plus the city wasn’t totally alien to me. I used to visit my aunt there often. So I pretty much knew what to expect. The one year there taught me lessons too. There were good days and bad. But the icing on the cake was that this is the city where I ended up meeting my future husband for the first time so hey I can’t not like the place, right! 😉

 

After spending a year-and-a-half in Chennai, here I am in Bengaluru (Karnataka). Marriage brought me to the city I was always fascinated by and where I wanted to settle eventually. In spite of not spending much time here, all the previous short trips I made to the city left me wanting more. It’s been three years now and I’ve managed to know

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Bengaluru at a glance {Source: Google Images}

about one side of the city. I may or may not ever know the city fully but yes I love living here. There is a spirit in the city that captures your heart. You can’t help get caught up in the buzz and the positivity. The mix of various cultures make it one of the most popular cosmopolitan hubs in India. And though it hasn’t been too long here, yes this city feels like home.

 

Personally, I think it is not just a place that makes you feel at home – it is also the company you have. Though I like my alone time, I am not a fan of constantly being alone. In each of the cities, I would not have felt at ease if not for the people I used to be with. Each person has influenced my life. Be it my family or friends. Without each of them, I wouldn’t have been this much at ease with myself. I am sure I would have been a different person altogether. Today, when I think of being at home, the first thought that crosses my mind is being surrounded by each of these people in the city that I love! 🙂

 

V for Valentine’s Day

V for Valentine’s Day

It is that time of the year again – Valentine’s day. That day of the year when hearts and balloons block your view; you see a sudden spurt in purchase of greeting cards, bouquets and other little gifts that symbolise expression of love. Love seems to be everywhere!

Lately, I seem to have become more and more of a skeptic when it comes to celebrating the day. My point is, why do you need just one day to tell someone how you feel about them ? As far as I’m concerned, when you are with the person you love, everyday is special! Of course there will be ups and downs..but it is this journey that makes a relationship stronger right!

My opinion was not the same always. Flashback to the teen years – call it being influenced (all those chick-flicks), or just giving into general peer ideologies. But, Valentine’s Day was looked upon as a very special day. It meant looking forward to being “extra” loved, or maybe getting to meet a secret admirer or something like it. The days used to be exciting all right. It was all about anticipation, anxiety, Expectation and curiosity. For us in the single group, the cycle woud repeat year after year. So, what happened to all this? Nothing. I guess, over the years, adulthood kicked in and I grew out of it.

Fast forward to when I met my husband. In one of our Skype video calls, valentines day somehow came up and I was pleasantly surprised when I found out he’s not much of a believer either. This does not mean either of us is unromantic – just that, we think it’s very wrong to have one day a year to gift or express how much we love each other. Gifts should be random. That is what makes it  fun and special. Of course, in all excitement, we did celebrate our first Valentine’s Day post marriage with a candle light dinner – only for it to be ruined by a loud, overly-in-love couple on the next table who thought they must make it everybody else’s business to see them making out. That quickly doused our eagerness to celebrate the day. Now we just stick to checking out all the extra love around us. Especially on social media. Trust me, if you need some amusement it’s fun!

 All said and done, I find no harm in celebrating the day. And now that I’m married and I have a valentine partner all year round, I don’t mind seeing so much love being showered all over the world. I often think – why stick to relating it to only finding the love of your life – why not go back and apologise somebody you hurt in the past? Or patch up with an old friend? That would be quite cool right. At least even if it doesn’t work you would’ve made the effort! Now, that’s some food for thought. Anyway, on that note, Happy Valentine’s day people! May the day and the rest of the year be filled with love and joy! Cheers 😉